When Caring for Others Becomes a Problem
People who are “too good” feel like they are excessively complacent with others and put their needs in second place, even if it makes them suffer. The solution lies in reconnecting with oneself, defining one’s limits and desires better.
The Burden of Being “Too Good”
George McFly, the father of Martin McFly in Back to the Future, is a classic example of someone who is “too good”. He is so good that he is taken advantage of by others, like his future son’s bully, Biff Tannen. However, George finally stands up for himself and sets things right.
The Psychological Effects of Being “Too Good”
According to psychologist Xavier Guix, people who are “too good” suffer from disconnection, repressed anger, and loss of personal desire. They prioritize others’ needs over their own and end up feeling resentful and unhappy.
Women are More Likely to be “Too Good”
Women are more likely to fall into the trap of being “too good” due to societal expectations and education. They are taught to be caregivers and put others’ needs first, leading to burnout and unhappiness.
Breaking Free from Being “Too Good”
To stop being “too good”, one must reconnect with oneself, set boundaries, and prioritize one’s own needs. Therapy, self-reflection, and learning to say “no” can help individuals break free from this pattern.
Conclusion
Being “too good” may seem like a virtue, but it can lead to unhappiness and burnout. By reconnecting with oneself and prioritizing one’s own needs, individuals can break free from this pattern and find true happiness.